When we grieve the death of a loved one, our hearts feel the heaviness of the loss. It is common to experience a variety of feelings, some big feelings and some small feelings. Feelings in grief can change often and vary in their intensity, like the ebb and flow of waves. Sometimes waves are big and strong, sometimes they are small and gentle. But just like waves, our feelings come and go.
Grief can feel confusing; we don’t understand what happened.
Take time to ask questions and talk with someone.
Grief can feel scary; the world does not feel safe.
Count on support and loved ones to offer security and reassurance.
Grief can feel sad; the missing of the loved one is so great.
Allow the tears to come.
Grief can feel angry; this was not fair.
Find an outlet to express yourself—scream, journal or draw it out.
Grief can feel lonely; part of your world is missing.
Share with others how much they meant to you.
Grief can feel overwhelming; you are trying to keep all things afloat.
Take one moment at a time.
Grief can feel guilt-stricken; you ask yourself, “If only…”.
Believe in your heart you have done your best.
Grief can feel relieving; the loved one is no longer suffering.
Remind yourself of their love.
Grief can feel happy; thinking about your loved one makes your heart warm.
Smile with their memories.
No matter what feelings you experience during the grief journey, allow yourself to feel them and know all feelings are part of the process in healing.
Whether you have a child that is grieving the death of a parent, sibling, grandparent, or even a cherished pet, we encourage you to view our full list of recommended reading.
Below is a list of books recommended for children feeling the “feels” of grief.
The Feelings In Me: Grief by Gemma Keir
The ABCs of Grief: Emotions & Feelings by Jessica Correnti
What Does Grief Feel Like? by Korie Leigh
The Love That Stays With You: A Soothing Story For Kids About Grief Loss and Big Feelings by Christine Monore
